Can Loving Makes Us Lose Ourselves?

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 Hi ARMYs! How are you this month? I hope you're doing well.

 

Have you watched Are You Sure? It is Jungkook and Jimin's travel log. They also invited Taehyung to it. Well, it's more like Taehyung invited himself to the show, actually 😂

 

Today's topic is "Can Loving Makes Us Lose Ourselves?"

Before I start, this is only from my perspective, which means there's no right or wrong. I am open to listening and understanding other people's perspectives as well, so feel free to share your thoughts in the comment. 

 

I believe everyone deserves to love and be loved. Before we start loving others, we need to be able to love ourselves first so that we can love others better. Loving is like you decide to hold your heart and someone's heart close to you. And of course, you will hold it gently, right? Can loving others heal us? Can loving others make us lose ourselves? The answers are all yes.

 

Loving others is like opening our hearts to someone, and sometimes, when the other person gives us love, reassurances, and motivation, it helps us to heal. On the other hand, we shouldn't depend solely on them to heal us. We need to try to heal ourselves first, and when we get into a relationship whether it is platonic or romantic, the other person will heal the other wounded part. This is because some healing can be done through personal work, and some healing needs to be helped by others. 

 

But how can loving make us lose ourselves? It can happen if we give too much of ourselves into the relationship without the efforts being reciprocated. Even the kindest person can feel drained out the more they give love without receiving it in return. This can lead to losing sense of self, low self-esteem, and being insecure. Loving means to be considered, to be seen, and to be heard from both sides. Love in the right way will make you stronger and wiser. 

 

And remember, love is always a choice 💓💓💓

 

Borahae 💜💜💜


Love, Shy





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